#THISISWHY Marriage Equality in Australia

6 May 2016 / no comments


Lara’s wife Elise was tragically killed in February, leaving behind Lara and little Ivy and Skylar. Lara Ryan’s Facebook post about Elise went viral and was a strong and important message those in power that marriage equality is needed.

Same Love Photography, and the couples we have photographed, have put ourselves behind Lara and the marriage equality cause. Additionally, we have put our support behind Lara, Ivy and Skylar and their GoFundMe page.


“If our Mums could have been properly married in Australia they would have been, We’re a family, just like everybody else.” – Ivy and Skylar

“Marriage should have been the first step for Elise and I to begin building our life together, and indeed our ‘illegal’ commitment ceremony was, It began our life of home, owing, hard work, travel, pet parenting and at last parenting our two amazing, clever little girls.
We have created everything we wanted and we are proud and grateful for the happiness and the good that fills our days.

We know that Marriage Equality will happen in Australia, sometime very soon, When that day comes it will be so exciting for so many people, good people, who deserve to have the right to be married.
It would have been the final step for us to complete and secure our relationship and our gorgeous little family.

Unfortunately that day for us will now never come. These girls lost their Mumma in a pedestrian accident in February, I lost my Wife, my love, my every day.

‪#‎thisiswhy‬ Australia. We can’t afford to wait a day longer.”

#thisiswhy - tom & anthony - Same Love Photography

TOM & ANTHONY:  “People keep asking us why we bothered to have a commitment ceremony when there is overwhelming public support for marriage equality and all signs point to a change in legislation. We were not prepared to wait or put our lives on hold while the Federal Government keeps shifting goalposts and the Australian Parliament catches up with the majority of Australians.”

#thisiswhy - anna & kerry - Same Love Photography

ANNA & KERRY: ‪‬ “Having been together for 16 years we’ve wanted to get married for a long time. I think that having a baby last year made this even more of a desire so that we can help him to feel safe and secure in his family unit. We were lucky enough to be able to get married at the British consulate and we are very much looking forward to the day our relationship will be fully recognised in Australia.”

#thisiswhy - Harry Cook - Same Love Photography

HARRY COOK: ‪ “Marriage equality is important because every Australian deserves the same dignity & respect on their wedding day. It’s time to get out of the stone age and progress like the rest of the western world. My husband Liam and I had to get married in our adopted home of California, thousands of miles away from where we grew up because our government decided that we were less than everyone else. Enough is enough. We are fed up of marching and protests. It’s time for Australia to be on the right side of history for a change.”

#thisiswhy - Luke and Eddie - Same Love Photography

LUKE & EDDIE: ‬ “We have never thought too much about marriage but as the years have gone by we wanted a way to celebrate and bless our relationship in front of our loved ones and family. We couldn’t wait as it seemed politician after politician on both sides were letting us down, Rudd, Gillard, Abbott, etc. Our wedding showed us that love can’t be constrained by petty politics and we won’t be held to anyone’s roadblock or timetable. Equality is so important to us as it seems unfair that we can be married in our eyes and everyone else who matters to us but not by law. We’re actually getting married legally in Ireland this year, how is it that a country that was once the most conservative and traditional can be streets ahead of Australia? Let’s get our act together and really push for it. It’s people like Frank Farrugia who helped make our day so magic and advocate for us to have equal rights.”

#thisiwhy - Vinko & Andrea - Same Love Photography

VINKO & ANDREA: ‬ “In general, marriage equality enhances freedom, particularly where religion is concerned. We all need and have the right to feel safe and accepted, no matter who we choose to love or marry!!!! We would love to get married ourselves, now we are going overseas to do so. It is also important to our economy, the Australian economy is losing out.”

#thisiswhy - Lachlan Beaton - Same Love Photography

LACHLAN BEATON: ‪‬ “Marriage equality to me is way more than just being able to commit to your partner for life, publicly. Its about ensuring that same sex attraction is viewed as “normal”. Whilst same sex attracted people are not allowed to marry, it will inadvertently teach young people that being gay or lesbian isn’t normal. Youth struggling with their sexuality deserve to feel that they are normal and that they will be accepted and live a life like every other member of our community.”

#thisiswhy - Jason & Garrett - Same Love Photography

JASON & GARRETT: “We got married in NZ because we love each other and are committed to each other and we chose to celebrate our love and commitment to each other in front of the ones we love in our home country where we are accepted. It is time Australia (our adopted country) that we are recognised and treated equally.”

#thisiswhy - amber & jade - Same Love Photography

AMBER & JADE: ‪ “When you meet your soulmate you just know! Your heart doesn’t choose your soulmate by gender; it chooses it by the feeling it gets. Not being able to be legally married in Australia will not stop same sex couples from loving their soulmates. Love is love!”

#thisiswhy - Jamie & Richard - Same Love Photography

JAMIE & RICHARD: ‪”What’s important to us is that we love each other. We decided to go ahead and have a wedding regardless of it not being recognised. A big celebration to honour what we mean to each other. It was the best weekend of my life and no government of mine is going to deny me those celebrations. I understand marriage equality is more than what’s involved in throwing together a big party, it’s about the team you promise to build with your loved one. And that love needs to be recognised as any other love out there. The fight for marriage equality will soon be won, it has to be, and on that day we can put pen to paper and be counted!”

#thisiswhy - Deb & Lori - Same Love Photography

DEB SAYWELL & DAUGHTER LORI: ‪ “Sue and I have shared 16 amazing years together, raised 6 kids, had successful businesses, own our own home and live a great life that is filled with love. The only thing missing for us is the ability to celebrate our commitment to each other legally and provide us and our children with greater legal protection. We deserve to be treated equally and recognised as a married couple. To deny us that right sends out a message that our relationship, love and family is wrong.”

#thisiswhy - carlos and robert - Same Love Photography

CARLOS & ROBERT: ‪ “We will not let our relationship be trivialised and diminished by others. Our leaders do not have the will to lead on this issue, so why wait any longer for their blessing? The strength of our relationship is such that we will marry with or without their permission.”

#thisiswhy - christine & virginia - Same Love Photography

CHRISTINE & VIRGINIA: ‪”This is a simple question of all Australians being equal before the law. It’s about two people who choose to be family to each other having just the same rights and responsibilities as everyone else. It’s about love.”

#thisiswhy - Kerryn & Jackie - Same Love Photography

KERRYN & JACKIE: ‪ “We support marriage equality because there are no excuses for a handful of politicians to continue denying our fundamental civil right to equality. We stand with Australia’s LGBT youth because we believe every place should be made safe.”

#thisiswhy - amanda and amy - Same Love Photography

AMANDA & AMY: ‪ “Marriage equality means recognition, it means I can hold my head up high knowing that my relationship is given the same respect as other marriages. It means that our son will grow up knowing we chose this bond to honour our love for each other, and our commitment to our family.”

#thisiswhy - Kane & Greg - Same Love Photography

KANE & GREG: ‪ “KANE: Marriage is important to us, because it shows that we are as one. It shows the legal benefits that come with marriage, but it also shows one another the love we have for each other and that we’re willing to spend the rest of our lives with each other. GREG: Marriage is a symbol of two people who wish to enter a bond together, a commitment that they will not waiver and they will love each other forever, unconditionally. Equality is important for marriage but our beliefs and values are also what make marriage important to us. We all watched our parents growing up; we saw two people married at an early age, committed and their love never questioned. We were nurtured by them and their marriage is what we aspired to from a young age. We were brought up to marry the one we love, build a home, a life and have children, committed to one single person, forever. This was all built on the backbone of their marriage, their opportunity to stand in front of loved ones and share that commitment. No matter what your beliefs in higher power, I’m sure “they” see everyone equal in their eyes, how do we find it so hard to do the same? When two people love each other, it should be recognised by everyone. Not because they have to, but because they want to. That’s love and that’s why marriage is important.”

#thisiswhy - Peter & Douglas - Same Love Photography

PETER & DOUGLAS: “knowing that we are fully equal under (Scottish) law and in the eyes of our friends and family – this is why marriage is so important….” ‪

#thisiswhy - sarah and shirleene - Same Love Photography

SARAH & SHIRLEENE: ‪”Getting married through the British consulate in Sydney was a way of celebrating our relationship together with our family and friends. It was wonderful but it is a cause of sadness for us that it still not recognized here. We want to see all Australians in loving relationships have the chance to have their love recognized and it is time that Australia joins the many other countries who recognize that our love is equal.”

#thisiswhy - Geoff & Jason - Same Love Photography

GEOFF & JASON: “As many of you may remember Jason and I took part in an “illegal gay wedding” back in 2005 to highlight the fact that same sex marriage was illegal. We’ve been together 23 years now and we can’t believe the Turnbull government is going to spend half a billion dollars on a plebiscite, that will cause so much divisiveness and cause even more self esteem issues for gay people – LGBTI people, particularly youth. C’mon, this is getting ridiculous, we need the laws changed and we need them changed now.”

#thisiswhy - Kathryn & Donna - Same Love Photography

KATHRYN & DONNA: ‪”Because it’s a civil rights issue: to exclude us from the privileges others have is to treat us as second class citizens. Also, it’s important to send a message to young people growing up as LGBTQI. That you have the same worth as your heterosexual counterparts.”

#thisiswhy - jade and trish - Same Love Photography

JADE AND TRISH: ‪‬ “Because we should all have the right to marry the love of our lives, the person we have chosen to spend the rest of our lives with. Why? Because it’s the right and humane thing to do!! I stand for equality for everyone, to have the same rights!!”

#thisiswhy - Ivan & Chris - Same Love Photography

IVAN & CHRIS: “It shouldn’t be government policy to make any Australian feel less than another. It shouldn’t be policy to make one Australian’s life harder than another”