Historical YES Plays Out in Real Time
What an incredibly emotional day today has been for the LGBTQI community, a mixed bag of emotions ranging from relief to belonging and excitement. Australians have been waiting for this very day for many many years and it’s a great day to be an Australian. What we have collectively achieved as a community today isn’t just about our right to marry, but moreso for the LGBTQI community that is yet to be born or too young to realise who they be in the future. And for those who didn’t get to see this momentous day, we are thinking of you and celebrating your dedication to the cause and helping pave the way to this very moment in Australian history.
I am not one to show my emotions on the outside but Wednesday was a liberating day, the overwhelming wave of pure unfiltered joy that swept over the nation was captivating to experience first hand at the Sydney YES announcement in Prince Alfred Park. Everyone who attended had a stake in the decision, it was and remains to be personal to all of us.
To the selfless, resilient people who have worked so so hard over the years, we want to say thank you. To the likes of Rodney Croome, Ivan Hinton-Teoh, Alex Greenwich, Janine Middleton, Dr Kerryn Phelps & Jackie Stricker-Phelps, Sally Rugg, Jay Allen, Allan Joyce, Christine Forster & Virginia Edwards, Sharyn Faulkner, Tom Snow, Brooke Horne, Magda, Thorpe and literally to the thousands of people who have marched over the years, dedicated their time and energy to the cause in any way, saying the words Thank You does not even scratch the surface of what it means to the LGBTQI community to wake up and see the world that extra bit brighter.
We worked on this together and the road ahead is no longer filled with doubt and concern, our future is bright, sunny and certainty that progress has indeed won. Yes! We indeed need to wait for December and keep the fight going, as it isn’t official. But I feel a sense of reassurance as it’s too late to back peddle, Australia has spoken and it must be legislated.
Kisses to all, the LGBTQI community is such a beautiful and resilient community and knowing that we do not have to endure hearing the legal definition of marriage in a civil ceremony again is sensational.
A day we will always remember as the moment love won!
So where to from here? Lots and lots of happy, love-filled weddings. I wanted to take a moment to reach out to wedding vendors who want to be a part of this next chapter.
It’s an exciting time for the wedding industry, an influx of celebrations to be had with a community that is creative and colourful. From the many same sex weddings Same Love Photography has had the pleasure capturing, we have seen trends worth mentioning.
47000 LGBTQI couples now see getting married as an option and one day may chose to celebrate their adoration and undivided commitment to their partner. A significant portion of same sex couples live together and have so for many years, we have children of both the human and furry kind who we hold dearly. What this means and creates from a photographic perspective which may trickle down to other vendors is a non traditional layout of the wedding day. Vendors will need to be open to doing things a little differently or at least in a different order. So here are some tips I have put together:
- Many couples love to get ready together, with or without their bridal party, some absolutely want it all to be a surprise
- Both brides or grooms may walk up the aisle with their respective parent/s
- Bridal party numbers can be different on each side
- Language is very important on your website, marketing collateral and email templates – inclusive words matter and an absence of such will influence whether you book a couple
- Don’t assume anything
- Some couples will need and value your advice on decisions that fall outside of photography and video
- A location portrait session on the day may actually work better between prep and ceremony in order for the couple to focus on spending time with their friends and family
- We like to party
- Posing couples may vary from traditional posing directions you may already suggest
Also, for vendors who may not have many lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and intersex people in their circle, just like everything, knowledge is key. We are human beings that love our partners and families. The best advice I can give is look into some LGBTQI history to grasp an insight into the decades of fighting, oppression, societal challenges we’ve had to face – e.g. Stonewall, civil right movement, watch some movies like Pride, Milk, Philadelphia, Bridegroom, Boys Don’t Cry, Head On, Moonlight to name only a few. Knowledge and compassion are fundamental to a united society. Oh and by the way, if you do decide on watching some of the above, keep a box of tissues or your loved one close by.
Ultimately, a same-sex wedding is a celebration of love, a fun environment that we as wedding suppliers absolutely love being a part of. For most of us, love and being surrounded by love is the very reason why we do what we do and enjoy can’t see ourselves doing anything else. So have fun and get your gay on……just joking.
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